No matter how good a cook you are, how apt you may be in the kitchen or how successfully you entertain, there is nothing quite as challenging (or humbling!) as getting your kids to eat new things. I may be able to flambé, puree, and poach with ease, but get my five-year old, with raised eyebrows and arms crossed, to consider a dinner other than grilled cheese: that, my friends, is tough.
Surely, the exhaustion that follows the nightly struggles with a “picky eater” can leave a parent frustrated and dejected. For if the job of a parent is to care about what your child eats, then it’s the job of a child to wear a parent down until you find yourself wondering “would it be so bad if I just gave in and made my kids macaroni every night? C’mon, what would be so wrong with that?!” Such were the thoughts that went through my mind the other night when defending a delicious chicken dinner. Then my sanity returned. With renewed conviction, I reminded myself that balanced nutrition and a healthy exposure to different foods were things worth fighting for.
Food Neophobia, a reluctance to try new foods, is common in young children. Up until age 2, most toddlers are open to trying new foods; but as children begin to become more independent, with greater control over what they put in their mouths, most kids experience some neophobia. Some aversions may be attributed to sensory issues (as a child, I hated tomatoes because they were “slimy”), but new research has found that other taste preferences may be hardwired genetically. “How much a person prefers sweet and dislikes bitter,” writes Cynthia Sass, M.P.H., R.D, “depends partly upon the number of taste buds and the type of taste receptors he or she inherits….Some people inherit genes for taste receptors that are acutely sensitive to bitterness” (EatingWell Magazine, Feb. 2007). And that sensitivity might get in the way of consuming some of the healthiest foods associated with cancer and cardiovascular disease prevention, such as Brussels sprouts or kale or even grapefruit.
Research scientists and nutritionists stress that there are a number of strategies parents can employ to overcome neophobic behavior.
- DON’T GIVE UP! It can take 10-15 tastes before a child can learn to appreciate a new flavor (case in point – by the end of a year in Israel exposed to a barrage of Israeli salad, I had become a tomato fan). Start introducing tastes early – the younger, the better.
- Try turning tasting sessions into a game as encouragement to try new foods. Punishing for not eating green beans may be effective in the short term, but will not produce a vegetable lover!
- When introducing new or “challenging” foods with your kids, prepare them with sweet or intense flavors. For example, baked fish is much more appetizing with teriyaki sauce; sauté spinach with something sweet like raisins and pine nuts or sweet roasted red peppers in order to make it less bitter to their palates.
- Get your kids involved! A trip to the supermarket to pick a “new” vegetable or ingredient will rouse their interest and might be just what’s needed to inspire more open eating, as well as empower them to feel that they too are a part of meal-time decisions. If they can’t shop with you, then find ways of involving them in the preparation. Cooking together is a great way of getting kids excited about what they are going to eat.
- Start small and work your way up! If your children won’t eat vegies, then it would be unrealistic to expect them to get excited over Brussels sprouts the first time around. Start by introducing unfamiliar foods in a familiar way. If pasta is a staple, try introducing sweet (less bitter) vegetables into the background. Reintroduce it again in other subtle ways until it is no longer foreign. If they develop an appreciation of the food, move on to something bigger.
- When all else fails, the cardinal rule of feeding kids applies: if you fry it, they will eat it! Kids love the crunchy feel of fried foods, however unhealthy they may be. As a general rule though, I save this as a last resort or as a treat.
Even with these suggestions, some of my children would still be thrilled if they could have a diet of nothing but noodles. And frankly, if I really discovered the secret to getting kids to eat, I’d be awarded the Nobel Prize. That there is no magic pill may be true, but by encouraging a diverse diet and exposing them to new tastes, I have to believe that they will one day reap the rewards of both good health and an appreciation of the wonderful world of food that G-d created for them. At the very least, it’s positive for them to see their parents trying new and interesting things – after all, the best way to teach is by example.
The following recipe was created with my “anti-meat” children in mind. Many thanks to Mordechai, Sasha and her friend Shani for being taste-testers – it must have been good if she asked for some to take home!
Oven-Fried “Lollipop” Chicken
A little less caloric than classic fried chicken, this oven-fried recipe still yields a flavorful crispy crust.
Yield: 12 “lollipops”
5 slices rye bread or French bread, crusts removed (makes about 3 cups crumbs)
1 large clove garlic
½ cup fresh parsley leaves, packed
½ tsp. kosher salt
½ tsp. ground black pepper
¼ tsp. cayenne pepper
1/3 cup Dijon mustard
¼ cup honey (scant)
1 tbsp. margarine, melted
1-2 tbsp. olive oil
Preheat oven to 425°. Prepare a rimmed baking sheet with foil and grease with non-stick spray.
Push the skin and flesh up to the nub of each drumstick, leaving the bone exposed (a natural handle) – a sharp paring knife may be helpful for this or you can ask your butcher to prepare them for you.
Place bread in bowl of food processor and pulse a few times to break up the bread slices. Add the garlic, parsley, salt and peppers. Pulse until coarse crumbs are formed, and the garlic and parsley are processed and distributed. Transfer to mixing bowl. Toss with melted margarine.
In a separate small bowl, mix together mustard and honey until well blended. Dip each drumstick in the honey-mustard mixture, and roll in breadcrumb mixture, pressing the breading onto the drumstick to adhere. Place each drumstick in the prepared pan. Drizzle with olive oil. Bake for 20-25 minutes, turning drumsticks over halfway through baking time.
Serve hot and enjoy!
Naomi Ross and the Park East Kosher Family
By Naomi Ross










